i stumbled at one of my mentor's post and i thought of sharing with you
Is it right to have Sex while or when your still fasting and praying and haven't broken yet? As
married couples is fasting more important than sex? Fasting and Sex
have caused more harm than good in marriages, especially this period
when we are all fasting and prayer for 21, 30, 60 and 100 days for a
specific reason and neglecting our spouse of one of their marital right.
So...
This is
mainly for those our Christian sisters and brothers (Holier than Paul
himself) who have put church before family, forgetting it is the family
that makes up the church. Let me quote that same scripture we all quote
to deny our spouse sex during fasting.
*Defraud ye
not one the other, except [it be] with consent for a time, that ye may
give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that
Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. A simpler translation says Do
not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to
refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give
yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come
together again so that Satan won't be able to tempt you because of your
lack of self-control.
Note the following important words from above:
1. Defraud - Deprive
2. Except - Unless
3. Consent - Agree
4. Satan - Satan
5. Tempt - Tempt
6. Inconsistency - Lack of self-control
Do you know
the meaning of Defraud and consent? Who Satan is? Temptation and Lack
of Self-control? Of cos you know! Now ponder on the above passage since
your spiritual, a lot of people have misinterpret this passage which led
to infidelity in some marriages.
You have no
right to deny your spouse sex because your fasting, that can only
happen if you have the consent of your spouse to abstinent from sex! If
not you've defraud your spouse, in short your a thief! So if both don't
agree you've sinned against your spouse and God. Sex is like an act of
worship to God in marriage.Let's check the next verse
But I speak this by permission, [and] not of commandment meaning (What Paul said is not meant as a command but as a suggestion).
Note the
words Suggestion/Permission and Commandment, Now Paul was speaking by
permission Not as a commandment. So you see its not a commandment but a
suggestion.
I heard
someone said he can only take permission from the Holy Spirit during
fasting to have sex with his wife. For real, nah Holy Spirit you marry
Bah, abi nah Holy Spirit you the sleep with. We have so spiritualize
everything that we don't understand the word anymore.
You may
say, but the bible say "that ye may give yourselves to fasting and
prayer; and come together again" Remember that came after the warning.
So if you deny your spouse sex BECAUSE you key point is come together again! God help your spouse to come back. If
you want it and your spouse doesn't want it, it a sin. a Big sin! You
must ask for forgiveness with reasons why you did such. You can imagine
some spouse deny their spouse sex for weeks and months because of
fasting, Haba!
Have you forgotten this passages so soon:
Let the
husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife
unto the husband. Meaning (The husband should fulfill his wife's sexual
needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband's needs).
The wife
hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the
husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Meaning (The wife
does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband.
In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body
but yields it to his wife).
So let your
denial be with your spouse's consent, permission and freewill. And I
advise it be for only a short period of time. Have a funfilled sex life
with your spouse, dont forget its your legal right.
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