BEFORE YOU SAY YES I DO: THINK MEDICAL COMPATIBILITY

I received two shocking mails and I decided to write of one of the mails which revolved round medical incompatibility.

Some months back I remember seeing a mainframe movie at silver bird cinemas titled “Dazzling Mirage”, right inside the theatre hall, apart from the fact that I couldn’t hold back my tears, I had a lot of heart wars as I ask myself a lot of questions like; Should love be placed above the trauma that a child face as a result of his/her parents medical incompatibility? Should love be the only driving force when it comes to relationship/marriage or should genotype take the driver’s seat?

Let me paint a scenario here: you meet someone and you fall deeply in Love, so much that you would rather die than see him/her hurt. Then you go for tests and the sad news is that you are both genotype as, knowing fully well that the possibility of having sickle cell children is very high. My question is, Is it wicked or better to call off the relationship, than catching a missiles for love sake thus birthing babies who get very sick ,having to live on medications always and die eventually?

Time past, true love has been considered the only requirement for a couple to walk down the alter and ring their fingers, especially among Christians but in recent times when the fear of having a sickle cell child and seeing them live a life of mirage has become the beginning of wisdom, couple with high rate of public enlightenments on the future trauma and the social repercussion that looms in the wedding of incompatible couples, many people have started having a rebirth from love being the only ingredient of marriage.

In fact most religion leaders have made it compulsory that intending couples must go for medical test before holy union, although many couples still marry out of Love and Faith. Meanwhile Reports have revealed that when couples who marry without resort to medical checkup, begin to breed children who are who are dazzlers (sick cell children), waste huge money on treatment to keep them alive, the faith and love that seems to have bind the parents of these sick cell children will be put on a ‘Litmus Test” and such couples begin to doubt if they had made the right decision to take the smallest lifetime handcuff ever invented-Wedding Ring.

I want you to understand that one of the holy books says ‘He, who finds a good wife, receives the mercy of God, and the other says that ‘what the lord as joined together let no man put asunder’, nevertheless the two holy books ascertained that God is not an author of confusion.  This simply implies that God cannot allow you to marry and bear children that would bring sorrow to you or allow you to marry and then lead you to alter of divorce because of medical incompatibility. I remembered I read a story of a couple who were AS and had 6 children who died in their hands, will you then say, God ordained such ill-faith, definitely NO!

Here I ask myself a personal question, can genotype be a God’s tool to establish ‘perfect love’ (SINCE TRUE LOVE ISN’T ENOUGH), Practically No! Potentially Yes! How does one even know true love when most relationships are product of infatuations, career and financial attractions? Ironically marriage is the only down-to-earth tool to test true love and by then the garment does not fits the queen again as she as walked to the market naked( that is genotype test is irrelevant after marriage ,remember what God has join together, let no man put asunder).

I want to categorically say that I am not an anti-faith agent, in fact I believe with genuine faith in God; God ordained ‘GENOTYPE AS’ Couple can swim past medical consequence. Maybe at this point I should educate us on Gregor Medal’s theory of Genotype.

The genotypes in humans are AA, AS, SS. Who then should you marry based on Medical incompatibility? Someone with genotype AA can marry across that is there is no risk of having a sickler . Someone with genotype AS should only marry AA because if AS marries As, there is one out of three chances,( AS,AA,SS) that they have a sickle cell child and all the three chances can be sicklers (SS,SS,SS), although there are cases where two AS marry and had up to four children without a single sickler among them. But why take such risk? Someone with genotype SS should only marry AA because if they marry AS, the is a more higher risk that they would end up having SS kids but with God’s Superiority ,there is a lean possibility of having AS children.SS should never marry an SS.

At this point I want to say that when it comes to medical incompatibility in relationship/marriage, Our Destiny Lies in Our Own Hands!!!