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Words of Affirmation
Sometime
ago I eavesdropped two women talking and I heard, one of the women say, "I
work my tail off every day, yet my spouse acts like I haven't done a thing. I
never get a single word of appreciation." And I wish I could see
her
husband to tell him that his wife’s love language is word of Affirmation.
If
that is your spouse love language too, then your spoken praise and appreciation
to her will fall like rain on dehydrated soil. Before long, you will see new
life budding in your marriage or relationship as your spouse responds to your
words of love.
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Physical Touch
In relationship, the love language of
physical touch includes everything from putting a hand on your mate's shoulder
as you walk by, touching his or her leg as you're driving together, and holding
hands while you're walking to kissing, embracing and sexual intercourse(in
marriage).
If physical touch is your spouse's
primary love language, nothing communicates love more clearly than for you
touch your mate.
Naturally men have this has their love
language although some don’t see it as love language rather a duty their wife
must perform. So you have to be observant to know if this is his love language.
v Receiving
Gifts
In
every society throughout human history, gift giving has been perceived as an
expression of love. Giving gifts is universal, because there is something
inside the human psyche that says if you love someone, you will give to him or
her.
What
many people do not understand is that for some people, receiving gifts is their
primary love language. It's the thing that makes them feel loved most deeply.
If you're married to someone whose primary love language is gift giving, you
will make your spouse feel loved and treasured by giving gifts on birthdays,
holidays, anniversaries and "no occasion" days.
The
gifts need not be expensive or sophisticated; it's the thought that counts.
Even something as simple as a homemade card or a few cheerful flowers will
communicate your love to your spouse. Little things mean a lot to a person
whose primary love language is receiving gifts.
v Quality
Time
If
your spouse's love language is quality time, giving him or her, your undivided
attention is one of the best ways you can show your love. Some men conceit
themselves on being able to watch television, read a magazine, and listen to
their wives, all at the same time. That is an admirable trait, but it is not
speaking the love language of quality time.
Instead,
you must turn off the TV, lay the magazine down, look into your mate's eyes,
and listen or interact. To your spouse, 20 minutes of your undivided attention
– listening and conversing – is like a 20-minute refill of his or her love
tank.
Men,
if you really want to impress your wife whose love language is quality time,
the next time, she engages you in conversation especially if she is a sanguine,
turn the TV off and give her your undivided attention. You will score a
thousand points and her love tank will be overflowing.
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Acts of Service
Do
you remember the old saying, "Actions speak louder than words"? For
some people, that is particularly true love. If an act of service is your
spouse's primary love language, nothing will speak more deeply to him or her
emotionally than simple acts of service. Like washing his or her clothes even
when there is washing machine, polishing his shoes, putting off his suit for
him when he returns from work.
To detect or know
your spouse’s love language, it takes a lot of observations, so if you are yet
to know his or her love language, from today observe which one of the above you
give to your spouse that make him or her gaga or feel loved and happy-that is
his or her love language.
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