‘First time I
spotted her was that horrible Thursday on my way home in my Toyota Camry, after
I just lost a contract presentation that would have earned my company a profit
turnover of a whooping sum of #8 million. Although in a thoughtful and
sorrowful state; I couldn’t but gawk at the stunning figure- 8 standing under
the scorching sun.
On this figure was
a charming orange flower patterned gown which could only stretch far as above
her knees exposing her succulent laps and her slim long gorgeous legs. What
blew my mind was the sexy projection of her boobs which stood firmly on her
chest. I fell in love immediately, Love
at first sight you may call it ’
I know most
people especially co- relationship coaches may disagree with me on this topic
but I remain firm on my position that there is no such thing as ‘Love at first sight’. I want to
categorically and emphatically state that what exists is ‘Attraction at First Sight’.
The truth is
that, the human sex that believe more in the cliché or should I say
malapropism - Love at first sight are the male sex, and this is because as a
male, you are wired to be moved and attracted by what you see while as a female you wired to be moved by what you
hear.
When I raised
this issue at a relationship gathering I anchored, a lady asked me if Ladies
love at first sight. My answer to her was that ladies don’t also ‘love at first
sight’ they too only get attracted to physical attributes of guys at first
sight and mostly these attributes are those ones they have set that their dream
man must posses.
I must confess
that attraction (purportedly Love) at first sight breeds emotions which
catapult you into an hormonal induced, semi hypnotic state, making you see the
person in front of you as perfect or near perfect thereby arousing in you what
I called “Hot Love”, prompting you to hastily propose or say yes. But I want to
tell you at any point you find yourself in this state, get an extinguisher and
cool the “Hot Love” within you because
if you hastily go into such relationship and the whirlwind of emotions blow on
you, you may still use an extinguisher to quench such Hot Love but not the burns
it might have left on you.
Let me shock
you, those who believe in this cliché mostly find themselves in what I called
the confused and not totally justified relationship, which is usually full of
infatuations, deceit, problem of medical incompatibility, infidelity and so
on. This is so because their judgement
about going into such relationship in the first place was only based on their
Ecto-emotions or should I say the physical appearance.
What I‘m saying
in essence is even when you get attracted to someone at first sight, create an
avenue to move closer to the person, because his or her looks may not
complement his or her character, this is to say that not all physically
attractive persons are worth having as
life partners.
Love is meant to
grow and once it is not giving the chance to grow before it is harvested, such love
is bound to die at slightest wind or challenge, this is to say that even when
you get attracted to someone at first sight, you don’t just proposed or say yes
or end in court room or the altar, you must carefully allow the love to grow.
If it then grows in due process and becomes harvestable, you can then justify
your love at first sight.
Between a guy and a lady, the harvest stage of love is happy married
life, hence I put forward the following as stages you should allow your love to
grow (undergo) before you harvest it ( i.e. before you and your partner set for marriage).
Stage one:
Buying the seed (Friendship)
Stage two:
Removing the chaff from the wheat (Relationship)
Stage three:
Removing the weed (All round compatibility check)
Stage four:
Planting (Courtship)
Stage five:
watering (wedding)
Stage six:
Marriage (harvest).....to be contd on next edition
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