Unless you have the perfect mother-in-law,
you’re probably not doing it right. I’m happy that my mother-in-law is not
nitpicky in the least, but boy, have I heard stories.
A controlling, manipulative, jealous
mother-in-law is mad that you married her son. How dare you. You can probably
never live up to her perfect ability as a mother and a wife. The worst kind of
mother-in-law believes that nothing is ever good enough for her precious little
boy. Too bad for you that you fell in love and married him
.
Even in the average MIL relationship, you may
experience a little side-eye. After all, it’s hard to bring two families
together. You’re supposed to be creating a new family with her son that merges
into an existing family unit. If a mother-in-law has a difficult time letting
her baby boy go, as many women do, she may feel threatened, like a cornered
animal ready to attack.
And what does this threatened MIL do when
she’s backed into a corner? She criticizes, she makes passive aggressive
comments, and—best of all—she judges your parenting. Even with a fairly good
mother-in-law relationship, there may be days when you feel like you can do
nothing right.
Worst of all, you can’t speak up and defend
yourself because communication is probably left on your husband’s shoulders.
Unless an issue is dire, it’s not worth rocking the boat. Part of the “fun” of
being a daughter-in-law is learning to swallow your pride and pick your
battles. Bet you didn’t hear that when you got engaged, did you?
Judgy mother-in-laws are nothing new. Here are
10 things you’re definitely doing wrong, according to your loving MIL:
1. You
Are Too Pretty
I am ‘younger, prettier, slimmer’. When your
husband tell his mother this qualities you got she is probably reminded of
times gone by that she will never recapture. And this is where the first
jealousy comes in. Admit it or not. SO next time you are there when your
husband his qualifying you in present of his mother, kindly say “but mum is
more beautiful than I am and am sure she will be prettier when she is as young
as I am”
2. You don’t give her
enough money
“my husband and I work our butts off every day and all she does is demand
for money”. Remember if she doesn’t give birth to your husband, you wouldn’t have
the opportunity to marry him, so next time she ask for money, give her even
more.
3. You are pregnant
again
Your mother-in-law will surely be upset with you when you turn out ‘piggy’,
giving birth every year, costing her son to work harder to feed them and
indirectly caring less about her. Hilariously if you don’t give birth at all
you are in hot soup too
4. Her son’s attention
Take it all you leave it, you are in her way to get the full attention
and somehow you are the cause of her loneliness especially if she doesn’t have
a husband. Imagine the distress she is every night.
5. You don’t take her
parenting advice
All time you tell her to shut up directly or indirectly believing you are
more educated than her, then you are inviting her wrath. She wants to see you
as a daughter but you rather love her to be the mother-in-law she is. Too bad
6. You aren’t a good
mother
You don’t have time for her grand children, a career woman you are, then
be sure you are in her dislike register.
To be contd
Part source: Bethany Ramos
Full source: Micheal Jacob
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